When my mom was alive, for christmas day she's put together a big antipasto, shrimp cocktail and then we would start with the lasagna, with meatballs, sausage, beef shortribs, etc. a big tossed salad (her lasagna was the best). We would have stuffed artichokes, broccoli rabe, etc. and then dessert.
Now my fiance and I go to his cousin's house and she makes lasagna (its good but its not like my mom's was...)
I am lucky I learned how to make my mom's gravy....yummy!
I learned how to make my mom's gravy too--my dad was Italian--mom wasn't--she learned from my Sicilian grandmother. Christmas Eve we ate a variety of fish---calamari marinara was my favorite--we called it "devil fish." Sometimes we had crabs--baked in the oven with tomato sauce and oregano---my all time favorite food. Christmas Day was some form of macaroni---rigatoni or spaghetti--meat balls, sausage, beef. And a roast beef. And stuffed artichokes----which were my favorite----my mom would cook about a dozen and I'd eat at least eight of them.
The Italians in my family all lived in East Harlem--that's where I was born---mainly Sicilians and Calabrese---a few from Naples. It was always "gravy" and always "macaroni" (though we made pasta fazool and pasta lindeek--I know that's spelled wrong--pasta and lentils is what it was).